If you look around you, there is bound to be someone you know who is always late. He will tell you some excuse for coming late, but next time he will be late again.
Are these excuses really false excuses or are people who are always late ‘forced by habit’?
Scientists believe that some degree of procrastination is a human personality trait and that people who procrastinate think differently mentally.
According to a 2014 survey, one in five Americans is late at least once a week, meaning there is one occasion during the week when they don’t get somewhere on time.
Grace Pacey, author of the book ‘Lay!’, says that there are two types of normal people. One is the timekeeper, the punctual person who is always eager to be on time, and the other is the timebender, who is always behind the times.
She says that people who are time benders (i.e., always behind time) don’t like routine and have a strong dislike for sameness, so they get bored very quickly.
According to them, timebenders can focus on a task if they are interested in it and if they are short on time, their work becomes very effective.
According to Grace Pacey, if you were to spot time-benders in the office, they would be the people whose desks are always cluttered and cluttered because they start one task before finishing it.
So, do you have some of these qualities?
David Robson, author of the book ‘The Expectation Effect’, says that doing everything neatly and on time is an important part of personality. They say you can find out by asking people how much order they like in their lives.
People who are always late may have it a little less, but does it end there or is there more to it?
Grace Pacey says that time benders (procrastinators) perceive time differently and that each minute is not the same length.
Time can go fast or slow for such people, so they may be so engrossed in something that they don’t even notice the passing of time, and it’s also common for them to miss deadlines when they’re close. If you stand on the head, they start working in the best way.
In 2016, researchers at the University of Washington examined how well different people can measure time in their minds.
People were given some tasks along with a clock so they could see how much time had passed.
But these tasks were so demanding that he did not remember to look at the clock.
So the scientists found that some people had a better mental estimate of the passage of time.
Many people never miss a plane or a train, but if they want to drop their kids off from school on time, they can’t do it. why like this?
Grace Pacey says that timebenders are not late for everything, but only where they feel they will not suffer the consequences.
So we procrastinate the most when we are not given a deadline for something and we are not informed of the consequences of not meeting it, such as social gatherings and events.
So if it is said that we arrive on time when it is important, then people around us may be hurt thinking that it is not important that they have to wait.
So Grace Pacey says that the importance of deadlines should be understood and such people should either set deadlines themselves or tell others so that we take it seriously and it is important that there are consequences for not meeting deadlines because otherwise. I don’t follow it.
What can be done?
Our friends are the most confused when we are late and in every group of friends there is one friend who is always late.
If you don’t see someone like that in your group, it might just be you.
Well, if a person is famous (or rather infamous) among their friends for lying, the problem can get worse.
David Robson says that lazy people blame their genes so much that they don’t even feel the need to fix themselves, so our thoughts about ourselves become reality and it’s very annoying. However, we can improve ourselves with a little effort.
But the latest research in psychology tells us that changing habits is not impossible but can be done with some effort.
So can we commit ourselves to time and order?
David Robson says that several studies have shown that when people were asked to set a daily schedule for a few weeks or months and do their work accordingly, for example, setting aside time to tidy their desks., so it was seen that after some time it started to become a habit in people’s minds.
So if you’re a time bender, it’s definitely a part of your personality to some degree, and some people have a better sense of the passage of time mentally, but you don’t necessarily have to accept it as your destiny, but some This problem can also be solved through hard work.